How to Find Your Purpose When Society Has It All Wrong: 5 Questions to Ask Yourself
You Have a Role to Play in This Moment. Here's How to Find It.
If you found your way here, you're here for a reason.
I'd bet you've asked yourself before — what is my purpose? Why am I here? Maybe it showed up as a yearning, a whisper, a pull you couldn't quite name. That pull is real. And it's not random.
I genuinely believe every single one of us has a role to play in this moment. Not in a vague, feel-good way. In a very literal, we-are-living-through-a-historic-transition-and-everyone-is-needed way.
But first, we have to unlearn almost everything we've been taught about what purpose actually is.
How Society Has Confused Us About Purpose
We live inside a structure that has convinced us purpose and career are the same thing. That if the thing calling to you can't generate income, it's frivolous. Selfish. Not serious enough to pursue.
And then there's the flip side — the idea that if your purpose isn't directly solving the world's most visible problems, it doesn't count as a real contribution.
Both of these are lies. And they're lies that keep us stuck, searching for something that doesn't exist: a purpose that is financially viable, world-saving, and personally fulfilling all at once.
That's not purpose. That's a job description for a superhero.
What's Actually Happening Right Now
Joanna Macy called this time the Great Transition. Spiritual traditions call it ascension. I call it the birth of a new earth.
Whatever language resonates with you, something is shifting. Humanity's consciousness is evolving — and it needs to. The world as currently structured is not working for the vast majority of people on it.
I believe purpose is the pathway through which each of us participates in that transition.
And here's where science is finally catching up to what spiritual traditions have taught for millennia: everything is energy. Things are connected in ways we can't always see. You can create ripples of change just by shifting your own frequency.
I was sitting in my backyard writing about this exact idea when a butterfly landed a few feet from me in the grass. On an impulse, I moved my hand through the air — and it immediately flew away. That response to an invisible change in energy? That's the ripple I'm talking about.
When you live in authentic expression — in creativity, passion, fulfillment — you are that change in frequency. You don't always get to see the effect. But the effect happens.
Purpose Doesn't Have to Be Your Career
Some people's purpose will pay their bills. That's great — go for it. But for many people, it's not a direct correlation. Not right now.
We are living in the collapse of an old system while something new is being born. Your purpose — whatever it is — is your contribution to that birth.
And it can be anything.
Making macramé art. Growing a garden. Being a present, conscious parent. Starting a neighborhood skill-share. Reimagining how children learn. These aren't lesser purposes. There is no hierarchy of ripples. The ones that are less visible to the human eye are not less powerful.
It's the ego mind that tries to rank contributions and declare some worthy and others not. That's not wisdom. That's conditioning.
Here's what's true: we are looking at a civilization-wide transformation. There is no part of the world we live in that won't need to change — how houses are built, how food is grown, how children are raised, how therapy is practiced, how government runs, how media operates. All of it.
That means every person's individual genius is necessary. Not metaphorically. Literally.
Our Imaginations Have Been Colonized
One of the most underestimated effects of living inside this system is that we struggle to imagine beyond it.
We can see what's broken. We can feel what's wrong. But when it comes to picturing what could actually be different — our imagination stalls.
We have to work that muscle. Because we cannot build something we cannot first imagine.
If you're a teacher who hates the system but has a thousand ideas for how it could be different — that frustration might be pointing directly at your purpose. Not the job as it exists, but the vision you're already carrying for what it could become.
Let yourself follow that.
The 5 Questions: A Journaling Practice
You don't find purpose by thinking harder about it. You find it by getting underneath the noise and listening.
Start here. Write freely. Let the lists be messy.
What do I love to do so much I'd do it for free?
What did I love as a child that I've talked myself out of since?
What do I genuinely love about the work I do now?
What ideas do I have about how the world could be different?
What am I naturally gifted at?
That last one — ask people who know you. We are often the last to see our own gifts. Ask a friend, a family member, someone who's watched you move through the world. Their answer might surprise you.
Look for the common threads. Purpose rarely arrives as a lightning bolt. It usually shows up as a pattern you finally let yourself see.
A Note on the Hard Part
If your purpose isn't the thing you do for money, the real question becomes: where do you find the time?
That's a legitimate question, and I'm not going to bypass it with a motivational platitude. Creating space to live your purpose inside a system designed to keep you exhausted and scrolling is genuinely difficult work.
But it is necessary. Not just for the world — for your mental and emotional health. For your frequency.
My Own Story
For as long as I can remember — probably since high school — I've had a deep knowing that I was here for a reason. It honestly haunted me.
Through most of my twenties I was dealing with my own chaos. Substances, trauma, climate grief, trying to figure out who I was. The whisper was still there, but I'd buried it. I traveled the world looking for my purpose and came home more lost than when I left.
It was only when I went deeper on my spiritual journey that the calling got loud enough that I couldn't ignore it. And the wild thing? At eighteen years old, my first semester of college, I had already decided I was going to be a therapist. In many ways, I'd already been living a portion of my purpose — I just couldn't see it. My ego was blocking the view.
It took being forced out of my career to finally see clearly: this is what I'm meant to do. I'm here to be a spiritual therapist, a spiritual teacher. And that clarity didn't make the path easy. Building something around your gifts will take you deeper into yourself than almost anything else. I won't pretend otherwise.
But what else would I be doing?
That's the question worth sitting with: if it wasn't this, what would it even be?
You Don't Have to Have It Figured Out
Your purpose might mean leaving everything behind and building something completely outside the current system. Or it might mean living a deeply fulfilling, connected life within a regular nine-to-five. Both are valid. Everything in between is valid.
What matters is the authenticity of the expression.
You are not behind. You are not missing it. The whisper that brought you here today is pointing at something real.
Trust it enough to start listening.
Ready to Go Deeper?
If this post stirred something in you — if you have an inkling of what your purpose might be, or you can feel it but can't quite get to it — there are two ways to keep going.
If you want to start now: Grab the free guide, Rewire Your Ego, Exit the Matrix. It's where we begin — understanding the programming that's been quietly running the show and blocking you from seeing what's actually yours.
If you're ready to do the real work: I offer one-to-one intensive work over three months. We go deep — into the blocks, the beliefs, the noise that's been keeping you from living in the energy and frequency of your actual purpose. This isn't coaching-lite. It's a full excavation, and it will change things. If that's calling to you, you'll know.